Are we prisoners of socialization?

This is just a brisk write up about my thoughts about socialization.

Lets start with "what is socialization?"

Socialization can be described as a continuing process whereby an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms and social skills appropriate to his or her social position. My answer is a big Yes!. That is to say we definitely are prisoners of socialization. Life as it is i.e. from birth to death encompasses a high intensity of socialization. Males and females have different patterns they would at the most follow from birth, to adolescence then to adulthood. This has been so from generation to generation except for some anomalies.

Our level of socialization most times even defines our hierarchy in strata of Life. The way a literate would socialize is way different from the way an illiterate would. We are quick to judge and classify people according to socialization in these modern times. We live as though we owe socialization.

First we are guided by the social patterns we see at home by our parents, (who bring us up) then the opportunity of education comes in i.e. going to school where we mix up with people of different social strata, beliefs and backgrounds. Most likely at this stage we then discover our sexuality by socialization. After school, we join the labor market which happens to be a bigger socialization field for us humans. And it just gets bigger and more complex as time goes on. We join different leagues, clubs, associations and groups which mold and define our social characteristics as we age.There also exist what i call dividends of socialization.It can then be classified as good or bad. If we grow up with the wrong beliefs,and these beliefs fire back at us then we yield bad dividends unless otherwise it would yield good fruit.

For example a young man hurt by a woman who gets misguided by boys with bigger minds and egos than those young men they call “friends”, “homeboys” e.t.c would most likely end up being hard hearted/unemotional towards the women folk. Same does apply to their females should the same happen to them.

Is it not an irony that we can talk about casual sex openly but frank discussions about sexuality that unfolded within loving relationships are a taboo?

Thanks to socialization.

☆Jubril Blaize☆

     July 2011

Remember me...

"You are agitated today because you don't want to be constrained by your social obligations. Unfortunately, it's very hard now to focus on the tasks at hand. There may actually be too much happening in your life these days, which can leave you feeling overwhelmed. Remember, your emotional response can deplete your energy unless you are willing, on occasion, to address your own needs first."


I am not a fan of horoscopes but i came across this today.That's what my horoscope has for me today the 1st of January 2011.Its 6.57pm in Baltimore,Md.My current emotional state: disrupt with no energy to recover.Brain battery level: 15%.So maybe these horoscopes do tell the truth.
I have a feeling,just a feeling that theres a deep message embedded somewhere in this simple message.since i am now aware that grandiose gestures are in style now,i will therefore not limit my thinking.
After a brief discussion/arguement with my mum my mindset has been tampered with.Hence i must learn that If i must set boundaries to keep people out of my personal life, i will do so in a respectful and kind manner.
This to say,HAPPY NEW YEAR.

☆Jubril Blaize☆

    January 2011

The minds mind

The minds mind is like a jagged edge,a set of gear teeth always meshing with eachother to produce that mental torque we need to move on.Thing is the mind is ever conscious,ever rolling,ever going.Im trying to reckon with the fact that when im asleep it rambles through the waves of life as normal as it would if i was awake.Problem is,at this point(sleep) i cannot phantom what its telling me.I am not talking about dreams here.As the name dream implies,a dream is a dream,thats all to it.
How do i control my mind while im asleep?
I wokeup this morning thinking....If im asleep,and my mind is still at work as if i was awake how do i wakeup to recollect what i missed in my sleep.How do i reconceive the thoughts it created while i was in my sub-conscious?One never knows,the ideas we miss in our sleep might be the keys to ones success tomorrow hence i want to lose not!
How does the mind stay functional while we are asleep and if sleep has been termed a "temporary state of death",how does the mind continue from that point?How does it mark the point where we sleep and know to continue from that point?
Then i thought,the mind must have a well organised recycle pattern it follows.What do i mean by recycle?
I mean thoughts that had passed through before are re-played and bought back to our consciousness.We never know if they are exactly brand new or have actually been played before(in our sleep) the point where we missed them.Brings the question,how are you going to miss something you never knew of its existence?Confusing of all sorts.....
The human mind is perfect and creative,but it does repeat its ideas.
We never know that fact......
We're just embodiments of our minds.

☆Jubril Blaize☆

November 2010

Wait..Breathe

I would write about a womans touch but then again illd rather not let my emotions into the air for the bees to swarm upon.An innocent move i made 6 months ago would become a chapter in my life today.
Follow me @sleekblaize if you are really interested in knowing how the verses unfold. Cheers!

☆Jubril Blaize☆

November 2010

Prayerdollars...A wakeup call for the ones i love.

Less i forget because i'm pouring this out of an aging brain on the spur of the moment....
3 days ago,i was chatting with my younger brother via BBM(Blackberry messenger)while at work hardly working; lol.
We talked about how we could make more money,business ideas we could delve into and all sorts.We joked about different things,trivial issues of life and also talked about mum/dad.
We finally talked about robbing a bank jokingly.Ideas ran through my head, I'lld think they were smart ideas.I don't know what you'lld bring out of my ideas but i think they were quite viable for an ambitious thief.We shoved the joke aside few minutes later and ended our chat session.
It did not end there for me because a few minutes later,i really tried to think about the best way to rob a bank.I came to the conclusion that it'lld probably have to be prayers.I came up with that because i reasoned that previous robbers went into their missions with prayers in their hearts.They prayed to God for a fruitful/successful theft.We all know these are negative missions right???You should think on that....
Did God answer their prayers???......I cannot say.Was it shear luck????I have no answer.But i do know there have been stories of tactful and successful robberies.Hence today,what i can say is "Who are you not to pray to God for whatsoever if the thought process of a bank robber was to pray before he did his harm?"Really,what excuse do you have for your inability to get down on your knees,talk to the G-Man beyond.
I know many of us would not go into prayers for a bad intention/motive,but if the thief will,you might as well...The thief believes that he has to pray to God at the beginning of all his works so He may bring them to a good ending.He does not care about the type of work it is,he just wants a good ending.
If you were the thief,wont you pray?
How about now that you are not....I think you should triple pray...
You are in a prayer duel with the thief.
There are a million reasons to pray,i dont know why i came up with this one but i hope it makes sense to those who can see beyond their noses.God help us all.
Ill leave you with this quote by James R. Bayley- The greater thy business is,by so much the more thou hast need to pray for God's good-speed and blessing upon it,........therefore,though thy haste be never so much,or they business never so great,yet go not about it,nor out of the doors,till thou hast prayed.

☆Jubril Blaize☆

  October 2010

Note:My thinking might be slightly skewed,its just my thinking.